From the New York Times bestselling author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout comes an illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship.

In Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, provided science-backed lessons that revolutionized the way we think about womens sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships.

Most of us struggle at some point to maintain a sexual connection with our partner/s or spouse. And many of us are given not-very-good advice on what to do about it or advice that may work for some but backfires for many, leaving us feeling broken. In this book, Nagoski dispels the myths weve been taught about sexfor instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they will inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us thats not true.

So, what is true? Come Together isnt about how much we want sex, or how often were having it; its about whether we like the sex were having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sexfrom stress and body image, to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex should beand presents the best ways to overcome them. You'll learn: 

• That spontaneous desire is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades.
• Vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in the mood and how to not take it personally when the mood is nowhere to be found. 
• How to understand your own and your partners' "emotional floorplan," so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind.

Written with scientific rigor and the humor and compassion for which she is known, Nagoski aims to correct much of the outdated or incorrect advice weve been given, and shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.